If you are breathing right now you undoubtedly notice a difference in the way you acted as a child and younger person and the way kids and young people today act. A friend of mine posted this article yesterday on Facebook:
And people used to make of my generation: Generation X. We look like hard-working overachievers compared to how the article presents young workers today. I was going to say that we seem to be adjusting well to middle life, but after looking around me and after reading the following article by John Rosemond, we may be adjusting well ourselves (which, now that I think about it, I actually would argue against) but we’re not doing any favors to our children.
If today’s young workforce is having issues fitting into adulthood what in the world are we doing to the generation behind it? There seems to be a huge paradigm shift happening in American culture whose effects run through not only pop culture, entertainment, and socializing, but also to the workroom and bedroom and classroom. We’re dumping the concept of others first and replacing it with the narcissistic idea that our personal worlds should revolve around ourselves. And this translates to child rearing with the idea that if our children are unhappy then somehow we are parenting wrong and we fear we look bad to other parents. We’re teaching our children to put themselves first as well. I will readily admit I do not think this societal change is a good one, for individuals or America as a whole.
I was going to list an example or two, but I have so many. I actually should try to find examples of people who aren’t living for themselves and who aren’t raising their children to live for themselves. And we all tend towards the new parenting style because we have organizations like the NAEYC who we’ve given power to by believing everything they tell us and relinquishing our own power to instinctively know what’s right for our children.
I could go on and on. Parents, use your instinct and judgment. Please think about how your parenting style is affecting your children. Not their temporal happiness and “self esteem”, but their character that is being developed to help shape the adults they become.