What we get to do in one month


We’re so excited! There was a lottery system for obtaining tickets. When applying you had to rank the five different time slots according to what you wanted. We got our second choice, which might actually be a better option for Du.

I’m praying for warm weather…at least for sun!

March and April are going to be great months in the DC area. The Cherry Blossom Festival will be starting up soon and running for several weeks. I’ve never been here to see the blossoms and the beginning of spring. There’s been a lot going on throughout the winter, but now things will start being held outside again:

  • Kite Festival
  • Japanese Festival
  • Capitals Hockey Game (this won’t technically be outside, but we still get to do it in a month)
  • Block Party
  • Art Shows
  • Fireworks Show
  • Lantern Lighting
  • White House Easter Egg Roll
  • Parades
  • (and a trip to Hershey, Pennsylvania thrown in just for fun)

Come on Spring!

The winter of the boot

At the beginning of the fall season I wasn’t sure I wanted to embrace the new “it” fashions. Sometimes, or most of the time, I don’t want to completely fall in lockstep with everyone else. The boot craze, however, got me. It’s funny, in a sad kind of way, but if you go to a mall, or Target, or anywhere out in public 90% of the women will have tall boots on. But, funny enough, I have yet to see a pair that I don’t like…except those Ugg styles…those look like pajama boots and only tween to early teen girls should wear them and only then with pajama looking clothes, because only that very limited age range can get away with that look. (Sorry, if you’re a fan, I’m sure you look fab in them!)

I’m pretty sure I professed my love for my boots here, on Facebook and Twitter. I’ll refresh your memory:

This was my daily choice of chaussure for November and December. Until the snows fell. And continued to fall. And everything got wet. And stayed wet. That’s not good for suede. So, I transitioned to my other favorite boot of the season

My wellies! Not only are these beauties waterproof, they’re easy to slip on and they’re comfortable. They’re like pajama boots, only useful in the sloshy climate that has gripped DC for the past two and a half months.

I’m not exaggerating when I estimate that my cost per wear right now for my boots are about $1 for the suede ones and .33 for the wellies. Some of the best bargains I’ve ever purchased, along with those $3 jeans I got from Loft that are probably .03 per wear now.

Yes, it has been the Winter of the Boot. And I imagine it will be the Spring of the Boot as well. Those wellies will look smashing with my orange trench!

Oh look! I’m wearing them together here!

Teenage angst is overrated

There’s a book I want to read called Nightlight.

It’s a parody of Twilight written by The Harvard Lampoon. How can one understand the parody or the satire though unless that person understands the subject behind the parody and satire?

Therefore, for research and better understanding, I am listening to Twilight. Audiobook was the only format left in the library to check out and I’m actually glad I got that version. I can listen to it in many more situations than I could try to read a book. So I’m getting through it more quickly than if I were reading page by page.

I’m not sure I get the hype behind the book, but I’m only on Chapter 12. Maybe reading it, and being able to make up your own voices in your head, and read it to yourself your own way, gives it a spellbinding quality. I’m just not feeling it with the audiobook. Firstly, why is Bella swooning over Edward when he’s forever mad at her and picking on her? He’s constantly giving her angry looks and chiding her for being so clumsy, and yet she’s still so in love with him that she’s ready to die? Admittedly going to extremes here, are we telling our daughters that it’s ok to have men emotionally abuse us if we feel enraptured by their mysterious, brooding, loving hatred? Otherwise it seems that she has a clear head on her shoulders. Are we supposed to chalk this up to teenage infatuation?

Secondly, why do they keep scowling at each other if they’re both supposed to have this animal attraction towards each other. I get his dilemma of wanting to be with her yet wanting to protect her. What’s a little harder to comprehend is her neediness for him. But OMG, could it be reiterated any more? I’m sick of Bella’s deep desire one minute, deep uncertainty the very next minute and deeply irritated attitude the next. At one point Edward comments about how odd he finds it that she’s not afraid, and she admits to the reader that she has no fear. Then that very night, she’s at home doing laundry talking about being afraid. They both have multiple personality disorder.

Maybe I grew out of the teenage angst a decade and plus ago. Maybe I just don’t want to read about people going through it. It seems labored and contrived at this point in my life. I just finished The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath. Esther’s depression was actually severe clinical depression compared to Bella’s teenage angst that she labeled depression (after reading Plath I cannot even consider what Meyer calls depression to be so*), I still felt burdened by my dislike for her character. It’s much easier for me to want to slap Bella out of it though. I can’t fault Esther knowing that her author and creator was not mentally stable and therefore couldn’t write as such.

Anyway, I expect the hate mail to start pouring in (do people still troll the blogs looking for fights? We’ll see). And I thoroughly expect to enjoy Nightlight.

*Maybe Meyer has Bella talking about being “depressed” using the term lightly like we all do.

Making progress

You might be proud of me when I say that I’m not even counting down the days until I can reconnect with my life social media. I don’t know how many days it’s been since Lent started and I don’t know how many I have to go, although I know the balance is heavily on the “still more to go” side.

To be honest I haven’t had the horrible withdrawal like I thought I might. I’m thinking less and less in Twitter-sized thoughts, although I don’t know if that will ever really go away completely. I miss not being in constant contact, but I’m not regretting my decision at all.

The first two or three days I just did not access Facebook or Twitter. I felt, however, like I wasn’t being true to what my goal is–to replace that action with something that would help me get and stay closer to God and be more like Jesus. I remembered a goal that I have had for years, which I can’t really call a goal if I haven’t worked on it all, that’s how lame I’ve been. In my Bible reading and study several weeks ago this goal came up again and I made a mental note that I “really needed to be better about it this time now that I’m remembering that I need to be doing it…again”. So I decided to start down the path of achieving that goal.

Scripture memorization

It is and should be a life-long goal. Really, until the whole Bible is memorized there’s plenty to work on. I found an iPhone app that helps me memorize 256 verses and I’ve been working on that. Whenever I think about picking up my phone, which would normally be the times I would access Facebook or Twitter, I open up my Bible Memory app and either review a verse or start learning a new one. I’m up to 7 out of 256, which it kindly tells me is 2%. I’m sure there are some listed in there that I know, but just haven’t found yet. But still, 7 verses is major, especially for someone who feels she is lacking in the memorization department. I’m sure that’s why I have forever been kicking this can down the road vowing to get to it sometime. But what is the best way to learn something or get it done other than to just do it.

And so I am. I’m also happy because I can keep this up after Lent is over and I’m back to my social media happiness. I’m creating a priority that will easily fit into my life normally lived.

Visiting the Supreme Court

(This turned out to be a novel so if you want the abridged version scroll down to the bottom of this post, after my signature.)

It was a cold, damp morning. The girls and I caught the 8:45 bus in our neighborhood that dropped us off at the Pentagon Metro. Several stops and one train change later we emerged from the metro underground into DC, two blocks from the Capitol. Our destination was not the Capitol though. Across the street from the famous white dome that tops the legislative branch sits the house of the judicial branch. Our destination was the Supreme Court.

Reagan learned about the three branches of government, and specifically the Supreme Court, in history several weeks ago. Not being one to pass up a field trip opportunity I immediately began doing research on how to visit and maybe even see the justices in action. The Supreme Court website not only listed information about visiting but also gave the schedule of arguments that would be presented throughout the year. The justices are not hearing cases every day the court is open.

As we approached the west side of the building, walking up First Street, we saw that a line had already formed. Men and women, predominantly dressed in black, formed a somewhat single-file line waiting patiently in their place to be let in. It struck me at how opposite it was to the waiting crowd at the National Gallery of Art before a children’s event I had taken Reagan to. It was every man for himself then and not too safe for young children. I appreciated the business-like attitude and the desire to follow American social norms in this group. (See below how nice that line looks.)

Although the temperature was in the low 40s there was little wind, and after surviving 4° temps in Punxsutawney for hours neither the girls nor I was complaining. We weren’t sure how long we were going to have to wait before going in so the girls bided their time by playing with the melting snow that was still in dirty piles along the edge of the steps leading up to the entrance of the court.

I busied myself with noticing the women in the smaller crowds that would form around us. Most were young and seemed to know each other. I’m guessing they’re in the city either attending school or working an internship. Did they all want to become lawyers? Judges? They were in special groups that had been granted access to hear the arguments today. Neither skirts nor pants were favored by a majority and it seemed as if the only two choices of heel height were flat and ridiculous. I made a mental note that plain black stilettos look silly on a woman who is trying to look professional, especially when it’s a cold, wet winter day. I noticed maybe two cute pairs of high-heeled shoes. The ladies wearing flats were obviously more practical, but I also made a mental note that if I were to wear flats with a short skirt the shoes must be killer awesome. I also noticed how God made calves in every shape and size. I could tell one woman was a runner–and that she should have been wearing dark hose with her short skirt. Pale, chiseled calves just don’t look very good in heels. And it’s not very smart to have bare legs in 40 degree weather. It’s just my opinion. I wondered if they took notice of the mother with two children standing near them, wearing jeans and wellies and if they thought it was an appropriate outfit for a visit to the highest court in the land. Long johns probably never crossed their minds.

The long, well-formed line was for the people who wanted to sit in on the first of the two one hour-long arguments that would take place today. I would have liked to have been in that line, but I knew the limitations of a three year-old*. We were waiting for the line to form that would include the people who just wanted to go in for a three- to five-minute segment. A police officer finally formed that line and we were on our way through to the security and coat check.

I had little doubt that Ashlyn could be good for a short, three-minute segment. As much as I like to say she’s strong willed, she’s pretty obedient and most of the time seems to understand when she needs to be quiet. I had pumped her full of fruit snacks and a sucker too, so she was in a tolerable mood. We were waiting our turn for our bag to be scanned so I made sure both girls understood the rules–it’s always better to outline the rules ahead of time so you’re not having to yell at them explain in a loud whisper in the middle of whatever event you’ve decided to dare to attend with kids. Both girls understood, because there was really only one main rule, and they had heard it before, BE QUIET. I even tried to make it sound better by telling them to be thinking about questions they’d have for me after our visit.

I may have had little doubt about Ashlyn’s potential but one of the docents, or security guards, or whatever his title was, certainly did question. “Do you have someone to stay out with her? She’s too young to go in.” My heart sank. “You mean to tell me I left my house at 8:45 in the cold, damp morning to catch a bus to catch two trains, to walk close to three blocks with thirty pounds of kid and lunch sack, to wait over an hour to see the Supreme Court Justices in order for you to tell me I am out of luck today?” That’s only what I wanted to say. I did say that we were homeschoolers and that my husband works so there is no one to watch her and, oh yeah! the website doesn’t give an age limit as to who’s allowed into the court room! He did seem torn between his duties to keep the Supreme Court from becoming the People’s Court and allowing a poor little ol’ dumb mother who traipsed here the opportunity to lay eyeballs on what she came for.

He made a big show about telling the X-ray machine security guard, two other officials of the court and then two body guard type girls within the chambers that he was specifically letting me in with my little illegal attachment solely on the basis that any one of them could throw me out the very nanosecond she started to cause a scene. I remained grateful and thankful to all of them because we hadn’t proven ourselves yet.

The courtroom was smaller than I had imagined and decked out in red draperies. There were giant red curtains everywhere. The three-minute watchers were hidden behind sets of these curtains with only about a two feet-wide window provided by the slight opening between two. I honestly was glad to see that we were hidden. We were seated as close to the doors as possible; I had Ashlyn on my lap. Reagan had a brochure with pictures and names of the nine justices.

The case being argued during our visit was Holder V. Humanitarian Law Project (and the reciprocal HLP V. Holder). The questioning had to do with terrorists, but I don’t even remember what the questions were, which is a shame. Next time I will bring the only two things allowed in the courtroom: a notepad and writing utensil. The  main two justices asking questions while we were in there for our three minutes were Antonin Scalia and Sonia Sotomayor. I would point to the picture of the person talking and then point up to them so Reagan could know who was speaking. Her view was even less desirable since she was so short in her chair. Ashlyn mouthed one or two things to me and then whispered that she couldn’t see. I let her stand on my lap.

Wanting to make a good impression, and not wanting to press our luck, I decided to call it quits and leave the courtroom before we were asked to leave. I thanked everyone we came into contact with again and vowed (to myself) that I would be back to hear a full hour’s argument. On our way back to the metro we stopped in the Library of Congress, since it is right next door. We couldn’t stay long though because Ashlyn’s demeanor here was completely opposite of what it had been at the Supreme Court. I will go back to explore that building as well, and probably without kids as well.



*How in the world do you hyphenate the term “three year old”? ‘Three’ modifies ‘year’ and the combination ‘three year’ modifies ‘old’. And the term itself, all three words, is used as a noun. I googled it and came up with every option: three year old, three-year old, three year-old and three-year-old. In fact, after looking that up I became paranoid with all of the hyphenated phrases that I either should or should not have in this post.

ABRIDGED VERSION (It’s hard for me to focus on other’s long posts right now, so I sympathize with you if you are just scrolling down to read this version.)

We went to the Supreme Court today! The justices were hearing arguments in two cases and we wanted to get in to watch about three minutes of one of the arguments. We had to wait outside for over an hour in 40° weather but we didn’t mind. We almost didn’t get in because one of the workers said Ashlyn was too young. We finessed our way into his heart and he decided to let us in. We were in the back of the chambers, which were smaller than I expected, and we were behind red curtains. Justices Scalia and Sotomayor were the two main question askers while we were in there. Ash did very well and Reagan got a kick out of matching the faces on her brochure with the people sitting behind the bench.

After we left we stopped in next door at the Library of Congress. BEAUTIFUL! Didn’t stay long because Ash was getting tired. I plan on going back to both to spend more time at each–most likely without kids.

Who is this girl?

The girls had a dentist appointment the other day. Both have a somewhat justifiable fear of the tooth doctor. Reagan has already had pretty extensive work done and has some more work to be done in her future. Thank you, genes. It’s understandable that she would be nervous. When Ashlyn visited the dentist for the first time she cried a lot. Just because she cries a lot. I know kids fear the unknown, especially when the unknown is an unknown man or woman sticking their unknown fingers in her mouth, poking and prodding in previously unknown ways. Maybe we should have played “dentist” a little before her first visit.

Thusly, their mother has developed a fear of taking the girls to the dentist. I’m not one to normally feel too sympathetic about these medical issues with kids either. It’s interesting to me when parents lament about getting their babies shots (especially toddlers) because they feel so bad they have to put their babies through that suffering. I’ve been of the mindset that the kid isn’t going to feel it even one minute later. They’ll get over it, and the little babies won’t even remember it. Just be there for the kid after the fact. And that’s how I was taking them to their dentist visits last year. Just go in there, it will be over soon.

I still try to be matter of fact about it. I dread, however, the all too realistic possibility that Reagan will have another cavity. I also dread the fact that Ashlyn will break down in the waiting room before even being taken back to the chair. And that the technicians will think I’m mean and lying by saying, “just go on back there, you’ll be fine…and we’ll get a treat afterwards…sugar free, for sure.”

I wasn’t shocked to find out that Reagan does indeed have another cavity. What has me questioning the identity of my youngest offspring is how relaxed she was through the whole appointment. I think the hygienist detected some water works coming when the girls went back alone without me. She came back out a couple minutes later, after cleaning Reagan’s teeth, and asked me to come back with Ashlyn instead of sitting in the waiting room. Fine with me, I couldn’t get good cell phone reception in the lobby anyway.*

She had me lie in the chair with Ashlyn on top of me. Visions began running through my head of Ashlyn, whose head…and mouth…were so close to my ear, screaming so loud my eardrum would pop. I doubt my healthcare covers popped eardrums at a dental visit. I felt for sure there would be no way, no matter what they tried to do, barring promising her a puppy, to actually clean her teeth. Imagine my surprise when she reclined relaxed through the whole process. Even when the dentist was scraping her teeth. Even when he was “tickling her teeth” with that toothbrush that rotates at several million rpms.

Who was this kid? Don’t get me wrong, I was extremely grateful and thanked God immediately. But what does this mean in terms of her being able to let go of me as she grows up? Is she going to be lying on me at the dentist when she’s a teenager? What about those yearly “womanly” appointments? That could get awkward.

I think I’m admitting here that I’m not comfortable with being needed like that. I’m naturally an introvert and I tend to like to do things by myself. I tend to not like it when someone needs me the way that a lot of kids are needy. Reagan was not that needy of a baby and continues to be ready to go live with someone else if only given the chance. Not because she doesn’t love us, but it seems she doesn’t need the physical love and affection. It’s not our love language. She’s probably an introvert too.

Ashlyn, on the other hand, speaks a different language. She’s cuddly and is worried every single Wednesday and Sunday thinking that we’re not going to come get her after church that week. That makes NO sense to me. It’s a real fear for her though. So, I guess for the time being, I’ll go against my natural tendency to tell her just to buck up and deal with it and let her lie on me in the dentist chair. Any advice on the abandonment issue would be greatly appreciated though.**

*Before you think I’m some horrible mother who’s not concerned with her kids more than her cell phone… I believe that sending them back to do these appointments by themselves helps them learn to be self sufficient. Three might be too young, I’m slowly realizing. But I think far too many modern parents coddle their children to the point of handicapping them emotionally and stunting their maturity.

**Be forewarned that I will not take your advice if I consider it too coddling to the point of handicapping her emotionally and stunting her maturity. K?