Reagan’s ballet class had its parent watch day today. Not being anywhere near what one could consider a dance mom, I had totally forgotten about this and was trying to convince another mom to skip out on class and go to Starbucks with me. She, not being a dance mom, but still having a little bit of sense in her brain reminded me that our attendance would probably be missed.

Once I “remembered” that it was parent watch day I was happy to go in and watch these eight little girls tendu, pliĆ© and battement all in a line along the barre with their instructor calling out movements and trilling her voice every once in a while when she was either pleased or surprised or dismayed.

Imagine my surprise when, amongst the girls practicing at the barre, a boy, maybe 4 or 5, went rolling across the floor. He started at one end of the room and slowly rolled his body halfway across the room. And even then his own mother didn’t do too much to get him back over to her.

Believe you me, had that been my child he would have made about one half of a roll before he would be snatched up and given a talking to. Nothing from this mother, not one single word or admonishment. Not even a, “now Johnny, give your sister a turn in the lime light, you silly little mama’s boy.”

My friend and I just gave each other the look. Do parents have to be taught common sense rules nowadays?

That’s par for the course for the mothers of this class though. Every week the girls go to class and the boys (including body-mop above) run around the tiny waiting area, yelling, screaming, fighting, running, and being oblivious to every other person in the waiting area. The most that is ever done is a mother might ask her son to please quiet down.*

Lady, you need to tell your son to quiet down. Body-mop’s mom needed to snatch his butt off the floor as soon as he started wiggling away from her.

These are the mothers that are raising these boys who are, in years to come, going to want to date my daughters. I have a vested interested in their child rearing and what I see from many mothers today scares me.

*Since when has it become common practice to ask our kids to do things (like behave)? If you want your child to do something then tell him. And then expect him to obey. And then hold him accountable if he doesn’t. Common sense, right? When you ask him you’re naturally giving him the option to say either yes or no. Take control and take that option away by telling him what to do.